I spent the better part of this week looking for toilet paper! Who would have ever imagined that people would find having massive amounts of toilet paper as a source of security. Today I went to the store early – like 7:30 – so that I could get toilet paper and paper towels and tissues. I did get those things but there was a whole lot more that I didn’t get because the shelves we empty. I have never experienced anything like this. The fear and anxiety are pulpable. Granted there is a fine line of trying to get people to stay home and beating this whole topic into the ground. I too, am anxious now because I have listened to the news. I am usually not swayed by newscasts, but COVID 19 does take over everything. So why is that? Why are we hoarding toilet paper?
Why Do We Experience Fear?
Our brain is all about protecting us and helping us survive. This is the hardwiring that we have received from our prehistoric ancestors. If they didn’t sense a threat or feel fear – they would not survive very long. Through our evolution, the people who understood fear survived to pass on their genes. “In passing along their genes, the trait of fear and the response to it were selected as beneficial to the race.” (Julia Layton, How Stuff Works).
The Autonomic Fear Response
Our autonomic fear response protects us as much today as it did our prehistoric ancestors. We may not be running from an animal predator but our everyday fear of crime or a random terror attack more than fit the criteria for fear stimuli. Anticipating a fearful stimulus can actually provoke the same response as experiencing it. For example, the first time you flew in an airplane – were you white-knuckled because you were afraid you were going to crash? When we anticipate fear, we draw on either past experience or something we saw on TV or read in the paper. Chances are overwhelming that you will not be in an airplane crash, but your brain is primed for survival and sets off the fear response.
The Common Fears Among Us
The evolutionary aspect of fear explains why there are common fears among us. A Gallup Poll conducted in 2005 reveals the most common fears of teenagers in the United States. These are the top ten:
1. Terrorist attacks
2. Spiders
3. Death
4. Failure
5. War
6. Heights
7. Crime/Violence
8. Being alone
9. The future
10. Nuclear war
Universal Fears?
We carry most of these fears into adulthood. Then add fear of public speaking, going to the dentist, pain, cancer, and snakes to that list. I have to admit there are a few fears in that list that I suffer from. Many of us suffer from the same fears – are there such things as universal fears then? There are some studies that show that humans may be genetically predisposed - like snakes, or spiders that once posed a real danger to human beings. I am not a snake person! I lived near ponds growing up so I saw them, ran from them, and was terrified of them. That fear is still with me to this day even though I was never harmed by a snake. But the fear of snakes can be widespread – even for those who have never encountered one. This does make sense if you consider that fear is an evolutionary instinct embedded in our human consciousness – below our level of awareness. This is an autonomic response.
There are also specific fears that groups of people might experience. If you live in an urban area, your fear of being mugged would be more prevalent than someone who grew up in a rural area. The context of our life experiences shape our fears. Experiencing fear is part of our life. But when we are overcome with fearful thoughts constantly our quality of life diminishes. What can we do about our fears?
Prevention magazine printed an article “What are you afraid of?: 8 secrets that make fear disappear. Here are the 8 tips for dealing with everyday fear:
1. It doesn’t matter why you’re scared. Knowing why you’ve developed a particular fear doesn’t do much to help you overcome it, and it delays your progress in areas that will actually help you become less afraid. Stop trying to figure it out.
2. Learn about the thing you fear. Uncertainty is a huge component of fear: Developing an understanding of what you’re afraid of goes a long way toward erasing that fear.
3. Train. If there’s something you’re afraid to try because it seems scary or difficult, start small and work in steps. Slowly building familiarity with a scary subject makes it more manageable.
4. Find someone who is not afraid. If there’s something you’re afraid of, find someone who is not afraid of that thing and spend time with that person. Take her along when you try to conquer your fear – it’ll be much easier.
5. Talk about it. Sharing your fear out loud can make it seem much less daunting.
6. Play mind games with yourself. If you’re afraid of speaking in front of groups, it's probably because you think the audience is going to judge you. Try imagining the audience member naked – being the only clothed person in the room puts you in the position of judgment.
7. Stop looking at the grand scheme. Think only about each successive step. If you’re afraid of heights, don’t think about being on the fortieth floor of a building. Just think about getting your foot in the lobby.
8. Seek help. Fear is not a simple emotion. If you are having trouble overcoming your fear on your own, find a professional to help you. There are lots of treatments for fear out there, and no good reason not to try them under the guidance of someone with training and experience.
One more thought about fear. Our brains are very malleable. They adapt to our environment – good or bad. This is neuroplasticity. If the noise all around you is filled with threats and promoting fear – your brain will pick that up and you will be more fearful. Remember – our brain is all about keeping us alive. Clear the noise – turn off the TV, don’t listen to the news, don’t read the paper. Don’t live in fear because that is all we hear and see. We deserve more than that. Go outside, take deep breaths, walk in nature – these practices will calm the fear/threat response. If you have awareness of what is triggering your fear – replace it with positive thoughts and memories. The fear response is hardwired – it will never go away. It is up to us to find practices that will override it. We have the power to live a fearless life.
Reference:
Layton, J. How Fear Works. Retrieved January 31, 2017 from http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/fear.htm/printable
